A Blessing

“May you experience each day
as a sacred gift
woven around the heart of wonder.”

— John O’Donohue

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Indigenous Peoples Day Link and Learn

Happy Indigenous Peoples Day!

Today, I simply want to direct your attention to some incredible resources to enhance your own learning about our history. I am just at the beginning of learning and understanding the scope and depth of this but want to at least share resources I’ve been made aware of so we can continue to learn together. Celebrate the good and lament and acknowledge the devastating history. Get ready to listen and learn. It’s the least we can do.

Who to Follow:

I learned of these fine humans and their work via twitter and the Justice Conference:

Kaitlin Curtice has a book of prayer/meditations called Glory Happening that I’m eager to read soon. I regularly enjoy her writing, articles, and tweets and learn a lot just from those spaces, and look forward to getting her book.

I value Siouxsan’s insights and stories through her photos on Instagram.

Mark Charles has a forthcoming book that I’m looking forward to reading entitled, Truth Be Told about the Doctrine of Discovery , which he describes succinctly in this 7-minute video: and can be read in this blog post.

Follow them on Twitter:

Find them on Facebook:

Follow Siouxsan on Instagram:

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The reason why I dance. Since I was a little girl I always loved dancing. I would dance in my living room all the time because it took the pain and sadness away as a child . . . It brought me great comfort and happiness. Growing up I didn't have anyone to make me an outfit because I didn't have consistent caregivers. I remember watching the dancers and being so mesmerized by them. Especially the ones who danced with their heart. I liked how they moved. . . It was as if they were in their own world. One year my mom made me a fancy outfit and it was really simple, but I absolutely loved it. Shortly after, I remember going to a powwow with my grandparents in Siksika and I used my shawl as my blanket to sit on. Lol. My grandma said, "Your shawl should always be folded. Respect your outfit and always keep it neat." Then at the same powwow, I remember dancing during intertribal, but I kept stopping and starting again. When the song was over, I went to sit by my grandma and she said, "When you are dancing. Don't stop until the song is over because you ruin the enjoyment of those who are watching you." After my grandma passed, I would and still imagine her sitting in the crowd. I would dance for her and others who could not. Then as I got older, my late dad gifted me my black and white traditional outfit for my graduation. I was extremely intimidating by it because all I knew was how to dance fancy. But I remembered a faint memory of my auntie Pauline dancing traditional when I was younger, so I did the same. Later I realized it was called the Blackfoot style and that is was our Blackfoot women's warrior dance. Hence, the straight up headdresses some women wore because they went into battle long ago. Very rare, but awesome. So when I danced traditional, I felt pride because I was representing my Blackfoot people and carrying on our own unique style of the double step. Dancing is the beautiful gift the Creator has given me to heal and restore my broken spirit. God always knows what we need.❤❤❤

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Indigenous Resources

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from She Loves Magazine

http://shelovesmagazine.com/2018/indigenous-resources-subvert-columbus-day/

http://shelovesmagazine.com/2018/jesus-was-not-patriotic/

Idelette Vicker, who leads the community of SheLoves and authored the piece above, shares about and recommends learning about the land you live on, at the close of her piece. I’m just starting to do this myself:  https://native-land.ca/


Read and Buy books from Indigenous Authors

Kaitlin Curtice has compiled this incredible list of 25 books:

https://kaitlincurtice.com/2018/09/06/25-books-by-indigenous-authors-you-should-be-reading/

and she also wrote this piece:

https://relevantmagazine.com/article/christians-cant-just-ignore-indigenous-peoples/


This thread from Sarah Bessey today also includes a few book recommendations:

And a couple more posts for thought and reflection:

 

One final thought, while we’re on the subject please make sure that you’re not making someone’s culture your costume, especially Native culture. It’s not your costume. Do NOT appropriate other peoples’ culture. Culture is not your costume. Research. Do NOT fetishize or dehumanize or make others out to be superhuman. They are fellow humans. Who’ve had their land stolen and their people and ancestors killed.

Take the time to learn and do what you can. I hope this is a helpful starting place and encourage you to stay open and keep learning about our beautiful world, and lament all the awful, horrible, dehumanizing, evil that was done to our fellow man/woman-kind. We’ve got a long way to go, but it’s time to start somewhere. 

If you have any great resources to share, you’re more than welcome to comment.

And to put it succinctly, I’ll let Janet, the Good Place robot take it away to close this out.

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Raise Your Voice

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The words you are currently reading are about this important book, Raise Your Voice by Kathy Khang. This introduction is also about the background of my personal/ emotional/ connection and how it is all interwoven with taking back and raising my own voice. (while clumsily learning how to spend my own privilege)

Three years ago on an early Saturday morning at the beginning of May, I think it was May 9th, 2015, I walked into an unfamiliar venue alone after taking an Uber to get there when I was living in Chicago. I knew only one or two faces, and a couple names of the speakers. I had been at my new job and practicing yoga for one year, I was able to attend the event because of a generous scholarship. (These details aren’t in themselves the main point, but they were key milestones, and important to the overarching story and my freedom. I guess you never forget every little breadcrumb trail that contributes to your freedom.)

I remember hearing Kathy Khang speak that morning and eagerly following her work online afterward. I took notes, though I admit I don’t remember much, but that she was engaging, and I think the impression I recall is that she was funny and deeply thought-provoking. Recently, I enthusiastically reached out to Kathy, cheering her on as she received her yoga certification and sharing our common love for yoga, excited to read as she voiced her own yoga journey.

What was happening internally and behind the scenes in my own world at that very moment of that event in 2015 was a little bit of finding my voice when it turns out my personal agency and decision to travel to visit my sister for the upcoming Memorial Day weekend was being strongly discouraged…to the point that my abuser wouldn’t grant his blessing but threatened that I shouldn’t go. (That I would be choosing cursing instead of blessing by failing to listen to spiritual authority, blah, blah, blah. Bah humbug.)

To visit my sister. When she was pregnant. For the first time. My only sister, 8 hours away. On my long weekend holiday.

The whole thing was ridiculous and caused much unneeded emotional tension and turmoil and I was determined to go, had the means to go, and no reason not to go…so I went.

This also coincided with the beginning of the end of my abuser’s tight grip on my life. Gratefully, I lost a great deal of trust in him at this point. I was absolutely perplexed & bewildered why in the world he was making a big deal about this. As you know, I recently recorded my story, raising my voice, this literally taking back my voice and telling my story in my own words, with my own voice. Since this post isn’t about me, I won’t link to that today. You can find it on my site if you dig around. 😉

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Upon hearing about Kathy’s new book, I jumped at the chance to be part of the launch team and help amplify this incredible book. It’s so delightfully practical, spiritual, and encouraging. Filled with enough anecdotes that give honest, real-life examples. Weaving in narratives from the Bible from her perspective. I loved the way the author described  Esther’s cross-cultural, dual identity, having two names; Esther and Hadassah, along with a time to step up and raise her voice – for such a time as this – to hear it told from Kathy’s perspective was vivid and powerful. As an MK/TCK (third culture kid) growing up outside my passport country, though very much still privileged, not economically, but because of my skin, I could identify with that in my own way as well.

This is a book I want to hand to several people in my life, in hopes that it might help them see past the binary issues of our day, and see more nuance, but also how our silence can speak loudly, and especially the need for diverse voices, and to stop the silencing story about a false kind of unity and niceties.

Kathy articulates this point wonderfully; with the verse from 1 Corinthians 12:12-20 and verse 26 about the beauty in the diversity of our gifts and how we are one body of many parts. This doesn’t detract from a holistic desire for unity, but unity isn’t about sameness, or homogenizing. Repeat after me, sameness isn’t unity. Sameness isn’t the goal. Sameness isn’t the gospel. This very point from Paul was counter-cultural, that each individual person had a part to play in their community, in their church, in Roman society, affirmed and loved uniquely by their Creator.

I was reminded of the familiar verse about every tribe, every tongue, every nation. How dare we as Christians think that is the vision of heaven and simultaneously refuse to actively live that out in our world, in our neighborhoods, and in our cities right now. Instead, despite our great intentions many are promoting or at the very least permitting racism and white supremacy, because of one or a few singular complex issues, stubbornly refusing to budge from, but are unwilling to hear and listen to the voices crying out demanding to be heard, for their own safety, for their own survival. By the way, reverse racism is not a thing, you guys. Not a thing.

What about the prayer ‘on earth as it is in heaven’ on EARTH, right now. Like Kathy says at the beginning of her book, we have a responsibility, to steward, our domain.

In Raise Your Voice, Kathy says the following:

“I believe that Christians desire and can handle more complexity. Race and reconciliation can no longer be framed solely as a justice issue but rather as core to the gospel, theologically grounded in the Imago Dei (the image of God). As Christians, if we truly believe we are all created in God’s image, and that God the Creator had a hand in developing, creating, and shaping not just our embodied souls but also the places and spaces we steward and have dominion over, then reconciliation with one another is not merely an option – it’s part of God’s mandate. It requires us to speak up and speak out.”


“When more of us from different intersections and margins raise our voices, we live a fuller picture of the good news.


“Words are powerful and can be used to free people from captivity or to sentence people into captivity. God created humans to communicate WITH one another, not so we would use words and actions to hurt and destroy one another but to be a blessing to one another. God used words to assure Moses of his identity as one beloved and known by the Creator, and then asks Moses to go out and speak up on behalf of the Israelites.” “Likewise, we are seen by God and called out of our imposter syndrome wilderness to proclaim freedom and good news to the world. God asks you to raise your voice.”


“Our unity in Christ does not erase diversity. Our unity in Christ affirms and even demands diversity for the flourishing and stewarding of this world. Our diverse voices allow God’s truth to be told in many ways.”

  • “We are all children of God, and diversity is part of that unity – not conformity or assimilation.”
  • “Knowing who you are also helps you recognize everyone else’s humanity.”

Speaking up doesn’t increase division. It brings injustice and sin to the forefront. Speaking up can be an avenue of truth and healing, which can be painful for you and your friends.”

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I’ll let the author’s quotes and excerpts continue to speak for themselves. This is where the practical, tangible, personal work comes in:


“Be informed and learn from people who are different than you.”

Here are some practical, tangible steps and actions that you can begin today, the following excerpt is a paragraph that I re-formatted into a list for you:

  1. “Walk away from the screen.
  2. Commit to reading books by authors of color, particularly theologians and Christian leaders of color (like this one).
  3. Commit to reading books by authors who have a different viewpoint on issues than you do or come from a different racial, ethnic, or socioeconomic experience than you do.
  4. Think about the podcasts and subjects you are most interested in and then add a few from the ‘least interested’ pile.
  5. If you are a man, listen to women preach.
  6. If you are a woman, listen to women preach.
  7. And don’t limit your consumption to Western voices. There is an entire world out there.
  8. Take a hard look at your circle of friends and be honest about the diversity reflected in your relationships. And then take your questions, along with what you are learning, back to the spaces you can influence and use your voice.”

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The injustice we do not understand:

“We often stay silent and do nothing by convincing ourselves the offense isn’t actually that offensive. Sometimes we don’t speak up because the injustice doesn’t affect our daily lives. We don’t understand the impact of a law or the injustice inflicted on others because it doesn’t impact the people closest to us or it isn’t a matter of our heart or heart language.

Queen Esther may have been able to avoid getting involved if it wasn’t for the actions of her uncle Mordecai.”


“Being a Jesus-follower, trusting in God’s sovereignty, and believing in our hearts that God is in control doesn’t absolve us from taking action or speaking out against injustice. In fact, it should be a reminder for us to take the risk and speak up in our churches and communities.”


“How can we pray ‘Your kingdom come, Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven’ without recognizing this is an invitation to raise our voices?”


“The reason I most often choose to stay silent is the one I don’t want to admit. If I benefit from the status quo, I have a vested interest in maintaining it. Silence is complicity. Speaking out is often labeled as rocking the boat or causing trouble, but silence is just as dangerous.”


“Speaking out against injustice isn’t about my personal feelings and opinions being prioritized over someone else’s feelings and opinions – instead, it’s about recognizing that our individual feelings and opinions about a situation are secondary in importance to the overall impact on our community and society.”


“However, I don’t consider it divisive to point out the problems as a way to work toward finding solutions. We can trust in God and still question what is happening around us. We can live out our beliefs even if the ultimate outcome isn’t changed for the better.

Mordecai understood that trusting in God doesn’t excuse us from speaking up when given an opportunity to name injustice and fight for justice….And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?

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Thank you Kathy, for this incredibly powerful, practical book. For in raising your voice, you encourage us (me) to raise our (my) own voice(s), listen to the voices of others, and recognize how much we need each other. I needed this book, in my journey of reclaiming my voice, in my healing and freedom from spiritual abuse, in my own anti-racism internal work and education, and in learning how to amplify the voices of others, in doing so, even if I’m clumsily flailing about or imperfectly speaking out.

The book is out today! To order your copy from Amazon or directly from the publisher: InterVarsity Press

Please follow and support Kathy Khang’s work. You can find Kathy online:
Twitter: @mskathykhang
Instagram: @mskathykhang

Summer of Wonder! Kids Yoga, Art, & Play Camp

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Summer of Wonder! Kids Yoga, Art, & Play Camp

Registration is now open!

  • WHAT: Summer of Wonder! Kids Yoga, Art, & Play Camp
  • WHO FOR: KIDS aged 3 – 12. *3-5yo parents will need to stay to supervise. *Kids 5 & up can be dropped off. Family Discounts available. 
  • OLDER KIDS 12 & up are welcome to come as Yogi Helpers at a discount. Contact me if interested.
  • WHEN: Monday, July 16th — Friday, July 20th 
  • TIME: Mornings, 9am – Noon (M-F) (Drop off by 9am and pickup at Noon)
  • WHERE: Arlington Heights Sports Park, Riverside, CA

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INCLUDES:

  • Yoga, Mindfulness, Calming Breathing Practices
  • Creative Arts Activities, Painting, Drawing, Collage
  • Interactive Story Time & Movement
  • Lots of interactive, developmentally appropriate, silly, fun, and wonder!
  • Some dancing and maybe even a little bit of music.
  • Gratitude Practice
  • Sensory Activities
  • A New Theme Every Day!

What to Bring:

  • Yoga Mat
  • Beach Towel
  • Water Bottle
  • Sun Protection

What to Wear:

  • Wear comfy clothes that you feel good moving your body in. Comfortable, weather appropriate clothes to move, explore, and play in. Dresses are fine as long as they’re weather appropriate and have shorts on. (Think Downward Facing Dog, and Tree Pose) The more comfortable you are the less you’ll have to worry about. There will be art projects too, that might get a little messy.
  • Shoes won’t be needed except for getting home or walking to the bathroom. Flip flops are perfect.

Suggested:

  • Folding chairs for grown-ups
  • Allergy friendly snacks if required

Not Included: Summer of Wonder T-shirts Hopefully! In Progress! (More details to come, including deadline to order before camp!) ** Registrants will be contacted by email with updates or any pertinent information. You can also check the Event Page on Facebook for updates.

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Are you ready to sign up?

  1. Register here:  (link takes you to google form)

  2.  Pay here: $125 for 5 days, or $35/day one-day-wonder. (link takes you to my Square Shop)
  3. Please email me with any questions you may have, for family discounts, or if you need a sliding scale based on need. Every child is welcome. I’d love to help make that happen!
  4. If you’d like to donate to offset the cost for a family so that a child can attend that would be amazing! Contact me or go directly to step 2 and leave a note as you are checking out. Thank you!

Who is Lori?

Hi! That’s me, Lori Joanne Quick, this is my website, and I believe play is the best way to learn and experience the wonder of life! I don’t talk about kids much here, but I spend (and have spent) a lot of my time nurturing some of the sweetest humans on the planet. Kids bring me great joy and delight, and am excited to bring them some great experiences and some healthy tools and lots of fun this summer!

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My Credentials:

  • Certified Yoga Instructor (R-HYI 225hr)
  • BA Music, (Developed and directed Kids Music Program as part of my internship)
  • Two Summers as a Camp Counselor in 2003, and 2006 (Elementary – High School)  and with Youth Groups.
  • Childcare since 1998-2000, 2006-2018 (and counting)
  • Chicago Arts Preschool Administrative Assistant & Baby Holder, Assisted Preschool Teachers & Yoga Class (2013-2014)
  • Currently BAE (best auntie ever, and I have the mug to prove it 😉 )to my almost 3-yo nephew) and Nanny of 2 years.
  • My favorite princesses are Merida from Brave & Moana. My nephew & I love to watch Cars (1 &3) and Finding Nemo & Finding Dory! I can’t wait to take him to see the new Incredibles 2!
  • My favorite recently seen movie is Wrinkle in Time!

My Kid-Philosophy:

  • Let them be little, let them play, let them grow.
  • Feelings matter. Expressing and communicating how they feel is healthy.
  • Seeing the world through a child’s eyes is the best, and checking in with them at their eye level.
  • Explore, observe, and share.
  • Nurture. Gentle. Kindness.
  • Be silly.
  • Healthy boundaries. “No, thank you”

*This is a non-religious event, open to all. To make a donation to offset the cost for a family see above.

Integrated Soul Podcast Ep. 2 & 3 Shownotes

“What Happened” & “The Beginning of the End” Shownotes

In Parts 2 & 3, I continue my story about what happened.  I’m using my own voice to tell my story with the hopes that it will empower someone else to be free from the toxic, shame-based counterfeit religion and indoctrination that’s out there. (It can happen anywhere, not just in certain denominations. Anywhere there are people in power, there can be abuse of power.)

LISTEN HERE: anchor.fm/integratedsoulpod 

You can listen via the web app at that link or download the app to your smartphone to listen. If you use the Anchor app, you can even send messages or record a voice message for me that I can use in a future episode. I’m planning to keep it here in one place at the moment, though I am open to requests to distribute to iTunes. Leave a comment and let me know you’re listening! 🙂 If you have any technical difficulties let me know, I’m happy to help.


Quotes referenced on the show:

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances,
but only by lack of meaning and purpose.

-Victor Frankl


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In the book, What’s The Big Deal About Spiritual Abuse, Dale Fincher, President of Soulation defines spiritual abuse as (mis)using God’s name in vain:

“Misusing God’s name means claiming the intentions and character of God are behind the thing that men and women are wrongly doing. This is spiritual abuse. Whenever anyone is dehumanized, it is abuse. Whenever anyone is dehumanized in the name of God, it is spiritual abuse.”

The life-saving course on Spiritual Health that I referenced is by Soulation, with Dale & Jonalyn Fincher and is available, be sure to check out their books and their work as it is supremely valuable. (linked to Soulation.org)

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In Brian Zahnd’s most recent message The End is the Beginning from Dark Nights and New Dawns he describes deconstructing as a House Remodel/Renovation. Instagram: @brianzanhd Podcast: iTunes link Twitter: @BrianZahnd


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Healing Spiritual Abuse and Religious Addiction by the Linns

On Scripture & Spiritual Abuse:

Scripture is still often interpreted in ways that are abusive to women.

For example, “If anyone wishes to come after me, he must deny himself, take up his cross daily, and follow me”, “he must deny himself’ is a prideful refusal to surrender ourselves. However, […], for a woman sin is not pride, the exaltation of self, but a refusal to claim the self God has given.

Developmentally, if a woman or man has not yet been affirmed in her right to claim and assert herself, she should not be pressured to deny the self she does not yet possess. In our culture women are taught to be codependent. i.e. to deny their reality and their needs and scripture has often been used to reinforce this.

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Danielle Shroyer, on dignity in her book Original Blessing says:

“Targeting self-esteem is an easy way to get power over someone.”

“God never asks us to reject our human dignity. God calls us to live into it.”


Kathy Escobar on dignity & voice in her video Holding onto Power (it’s only 5 minutes, highly recommend watching.)

“the kind of power that Jesus was talking about is a path of humility but is also stepping into our dignity and our voice. Systems aren’t the greatest at helping people doing that. If people’s creativity and gifts and passions and all those things are set free, lookout! It will breakout, it is unleashed. Spirit unleashed, power unleashed.”


In the book, Healing Spiritual Abuse and Religious Addiction by the Linns,

“St. Ignatius understood that it is abusive to try to control another person’s spiritual journey.

“St. Ignatius understood that it is abusive to try to control another person’s spiritual journey. Unlike Ignatius, abusive parents or religious leaders use children or followers to meet their own needs for control and self esteem, rather than nurturing the spiritual development of those who look up to them.”

“Jesus never meant for us to use him or any other religious thing as an escape from the truth of our lives.”

“Christianity was not meant first of all to teach us doctrines, but rather how to process life.”


a healthy soul is an integrated soul.”

quote by Dallas Willard, in Soul Keeping by John Ortberg


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“The depth of the healing has to be equal to the depth of the wound.” by Jo Ann Bauer (Graphic from Stephanie Moors @stephaniemmoors)

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Bearing witness to the truth is rarely easy, especially when we’re alone in the wilderness. Brene Brown, Braving the Wilderness

(Brene’s acronym BRAVING of which Vault is one of them, referenced at the beginning of episode 2 are also from this important book)

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“Tell the story of the mountain you climbed.
Your words could become a page in someone else’s survival guide.”

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words and graphic by Morgan Harper Nichols


Music: Sung by Lori

  • My Tribute by Andrae Crouch
  • Liability by Lorde
  • Someday (original tune) by Lori Joanne Quick

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Links & Where to find me:

Thank you so much for listening, it means a lot to me! If you’d like you can leave a voice message or contact me if you’re interested in having a conversation on the podcast sometime!

LISTEN HERE: anchor.fm/integratedsoulpod 

The Integrated Soul Podcast Episode 1 Shownotes

“Something Is Not Right” Show Notes

In the first couple of episodes, I begin to share my story of taking my voice back after spiritual trauma and how that led me here. I’m using my own voice to tell my story with the hopes that it will empower someone else to be free from the toxic, shame-based religion and indoctrination that’s out there.

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Some of us find freedom and find new ways to connect to our faith and spirituality. This is my story.

LISTEN HERE: anchor.fm/integratedsoulpod 

You can listen via the web app at that link or download the app to your smartphone to listen. If you use the Anchor app, you can even send messages or record a voice message for me that I can use on a future episode. I’m planning to keep it here in one place at the moment, though I am open to requests to distribute to iTunes. Leave a comment and let me know you’re listening! 🙂 If you have any technical difficulties let me know, I’m happy to help.

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You’ll hear as I mention some of the symptoms I was experiencing that were caused by spiritual abuse and trauma.


Quotes referenced on the show:

re-examine all you have been told
at school or church or in any book,
dismiss whatever insults your own soul

~Walt Whitman

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He brought me out to a spacious place;
he rescued me because he delighted in me.

~Psalm 18:19


Music Appreciation

Excerpts from Brooke Fraser’s song, Therapy, helping me sound kinda cool. Here’s her official lyric video: Therapy.

Links & Where to find me:

Thank you so much for listening, it means a lot to me! If you’d like you can leave a voice message or contact me if you’re interested in having a conversation on the podcast sometime!

LISTEN HERE: anchor.fm/integratedsoulpod 

Surprise, it’s a Podcast!

Surprise,
it’s a….
….podcast!
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I keep calling my Podcast ‘my baby’ and here are some reasons why: 👶🏼

While the podcast itself was a surprise…everything that went on before and behind it was not. And that’s why it all made sense when it showed up as an idea at midnight on Sunday night.📝

It was a labor of love that developed into a podcast. 🎨

Everything behind it has been in the womb, so to speak.🤰

Nurturing and writing and creating and expressing and finding new ways and unearthing the words and unraveling and reinterpreting and I know the baby / pregnancy metaphor isn’t perfect…I’ve never been good at metaphors (lol)…but it makes sense in as close to words as I have for this.

 

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It is my labor of love.
It is the fruit and creative expression of the inner work of healing and recovery.
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And somehow it turned into a podcast.
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I guess I thought it would be something else…a video series or a something else.
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I had begun writing, on my blog over the past year+ and some of that same material will be included in the podcast.
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I’ve been in support groups and I’ve been telling my story in person and refining the words and the way I tell it for a broader audience. For the purpose of simply…telling my story in my own words. And with the desire that my story would set others free.

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So if you’d like to listen, episode one is available and I may get episode two done this weekend. I’ll keep you posted. After the first 2-3 episodes I hope to release it once a week or 2-3x a month. And once I tell this part of my story I hope to shift a bit and share more discussions on practical ways to nurture an integrated & embodied soul, and even begin to have some conversations with you. @anchor.fm allows listeners to record a short message or question. So let’s do this thing together! Thank you so much for listening!! 🎧

Podcast Shownotes:

Direct link to all episodes:

anchor.fm/integratedsoulpod

Please use the hashtag #integratedsoulpod on Twitter & Instagram

 

A Masterpiece & A Work in Progress, Simultaneously

As much as I want to not care what people think…sometimes I do worry what people think….maybe because I worry they’ll misunderstand my process. Not because I feel like I have to…but because I want to make sure I’ve explained it clearly. I hate being misunderstood. It’s something I face all the time.

I am not someone who puts my best face forward all the time. I do sometimes and enjoy it. I also want to show the hard days and the in-between days. I posted a glimpse from a hard moment that was about a trigger I had on my personal facebook page yesterday and am so grateful it was handled with care and well received and supported.

But…I wonder about the after effects, not just about that post…but overall. How will I be perceived now? I guess it’s a little bit of a vulnerability hangover.  These questions arise:

Will people think I’m too broken to take me seriously and will this put people off from following my work?

But the truth is I don’t believe that I’m broken if I am grounded in inner wholeness and know that I am aligned with Original Blessing. I fully acknowledge that I am a work in progress AND a masterpiece. Simultaneously.

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This quote gives me life. It’s so honest and so true. 

And then I go back to the zone of not caring what people think. The little boost I need to remind me that it’s okay. I’ve used my voice and said what I needed to say and it is what it is. What people think is not my responsibility.

There are so many instances of both/and. We can be walking contradictions. We can be both perfect and imperfect. We can be soft and strong. Fierce and tender.  Maybe they’re not so much contradictions as contrasts or variations on a spectrum. I am the fierce mama bear I need for myself, and I am also tender and nurturing. It can feel confusing if you let other people tell you that you’re only one thing. But last time I checked rainbows come with more than one color. Multifaceted, prisms of light, rays of sunshine. Different timbres. Celebrating our unique differences and honoring the light that is in all of us. Sameness was never the goal. Resonance is.

“…we are mirrors whose brightness, if we are bright, is wholly derived from the sun that shines upon us. Surely we must have a little–however little–native luminosity?

-C.S. Lewis

Being a masterpiece and embracing our inner wholeness doesn’t mean we have our head in the clouds, but that we’re choosing to embrace every part…all our paradoxes. Holding joy in one hand and grief in the other. The light & the dark. “Darkness is as light to you…”

You can see in the dark, for it is not dark to Your eyes.
    For You the night is just as bright as the day.
    Darkness and light are the same to Your eyes.

Psalm 139:12 VOICE

“The deeper our faith, the more doubt we must endure; the deeper our hope, the more prone we are to despair; the deeper our love, the more pain its loss will bring: these are a few of the paradoxes we must hold as human beings.” 

Parker Palmer

So here we are…walking each other home. Being kind with each other in each of our masterpiece-in-progress selves.

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Bedtime Meditations for Kids

I wanted to do a bedtime meditation last night but I couldn’t find any prayers that I liked for littles. Silly me, I got this. I didn’t need to search for ideas outside, when I had everything I need within. So tonight I just did what I do and we breathed and prayed together.

See, I don’t want to just teach him yoga, I want him to be equipped to handle big emotions with deep breaths, but also teach a more mindful approach to prayer and not a weird creepy version of toxic or over spiritualized Christianity.

A faith that empowers him and is liberating, not ill-fitting.
Unforced rhythms.
Freely and lightly.
Soft and tender.
Age appropriate.
And would be natural based on how we interact already and who I am.


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This bedtime meditation prayer was magic.

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Get settled. Seated with little one on your lap so they can feel your inhales and exhales. Begin with a couple inhales and exhales.

I decided to do an embodied prayer of thanks.

Beginning with our hearts, and touching on topics and body parts he’s familiar with, I merely said thank you for our heartbeats and our breath, pausing here to inhale and exhale again.

Then I went to the five senses. Thank you for eyes so we can see, ears to hear, noses to smell and breathe (inhale audibly with nose) or make sniffing sound.

For hands and touch, as I gently caressed his upper back and tops of his shoulders.
For mouths and tongue that can taste the yummy Mac and cheese. (his dinner) This was a fun one.
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Then I went back to our hearts and the hearts of all those he loves, by name.
Lots of thank you’s.
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Then, thank you for always being with us, for taking care of us, and those we love. Thank you for your angels and watching over us and being together with us and in every breath we take.
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I then named a few big prayer requests and let Eben hear my heart prayers, some pretty big ones. His little heart was so affirming, such a tender moment to share some of my deepest prayers and desires, to speak them aloud in the presence of a fellow human.
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We prayed for restful, peaceful sleep. For happy dreams about puppies and Nemo and Dory. He liked that idea.
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He really seemed to enjoy it and slept soundly and it helped him sleep restfully all night. And if it’s something you would like to try, just go for it.

Forget what you think it “should” be and do what feels natural, age appropriate and don’t be afraid of speaking your own heart prayers aloud. (Unless you don’t want them repeating anything to strangers lol) I think there was a special moment between us when I shared honestly. Tonight thank you’s felt welcome, and gave us ways of looking back at our day and some of the highlights, in a kind of examen sort of way, now that I think about it.

Would you like to see more of these bedtime meditations for tinies? Let me know.

I’m definitely adding this to our nightly routine. 🙏