“What Happened” & “The Beginning of the End” Shownotes
In Parts 2 & 3, I continue my story about what happened. I’m using my own voice to tell my story with the hopes that it will empower someone else to be free from the toxic, shame-based counterfeit religion and indoctrination that’s out there. (It can happen anywhere, not just in certain denominations. Anywhere there are people in power, there can be abuse of power.)
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Quotes referenced on the show:
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances,
but only by lack of meaning and purpose.
In the book, What’s The Big Deal About Spiritual Abuse, Dale Fincher, President of Soulation defines spiritual abuse as (mis)using God’s name in vain:
“Misusing God’s name means claiming the intentions and character of God are behind the thing that men and women are wrongly doing. This is spiritual abuse. Whenever anyone is dehumanized, it is abuse. Whenever anyone is dehumanized in the name of God, it is spiritual abuse.”
The life-saving course on Spiritual Health that I referenced is by Soulation, with Dale & Jonalyn Fincher and is available, be sure to check out their books and their work as it is supremely valuable. (linked to Soulation.org)
In Brian Zahnd’s most recent message The End is the Beginning from Dark Nights and New Dawns he describes deconstructing as a House Remodel/Renovation. Instagram: @brianzanhd Podcast: iTunes link Twitter: @BrianZahnd
Healing Spiritual Abuse and Religious Addiction by the Linns
On Scripture & Spiritual Abuse:
Scripture is still often interpreted in ways that are abusive to women.
For example, “If anyone wishes to come after me, he must deny himself, take up his cross daily, and follow me”, “he must deny himself’ is a prideful refusal to surrender ourselves. However, […], for a woman sin is not pride, the exaltation of self, but a refusal to claim the self God has given.
Developmentally, if a woman or man has not yet been affirmed in her right to claim and assert herself, she should not be pressured to deny the self she does not yet possess. In our culture women are taught to be codependent. i.e. to deny their reality and their needs and scripture has often been used to reinforce this.
Danielle Shroyer, on dignity in her book Original Blessing says:
“Targeting self-esteem is an easy way to get power over someone.”
“God never asks us to reject our human dignity. God calls us to live into it.”
Kathy Escobar on dignity & voice in her video Holding onto Power (it’s only 5 minutes, highly recommend watching.)
“the kind of power that Jesus was talking about is a path of humility but is also stepping into our dignity and our voice. Systems aren’t the greatest at helping people doing that. If people’s creativity and gifts and passions and all those things are set free, lookout! It will breakout, it is unleashed. Spirit unleashed, power unleashed.”
In the book, Healing Spiritual Abuse and Religious Addiction by the Linns,
“St. Ignatius understood that it is abusive to try to control another person’s spiritual journey.”
“St. Ignatius understood that it is abusive to try to control another person’s spiritual journey. Unlike Ignatius, abusive parents or religious leaders use children or followers to meet their own needs for control and self esteem, rather than nurturing the spiritual development of those who look up to them.”
“Jesus never meant for us to use him or any other religious thing as an escape from the truth of our lives.”
“Christianity was not meant first of all to teach us doctrines, but rather how to process life.”
“a healthy soul is an integrated soul.”
quote by Dallas Willard, in Soul Keeping by John Ortberg
“The depth of the healing has to be equal to the depth of the wound.” by Jo Ann Bauer (Graphic from Stephanie Moors @stephaniemmoors)
Bearing witness to the truth is rarely easy, especially when we’re alone in the wilderness. Brene Brown, Braving the Wilderness
(Brene’s acronym BRAVING of which Vault is one of them, referenced at the beginning of episode 2 are also from this important book)
“Tell the story of the mountain you climbed.
Your words could become a page in someone else’s survival guide.”
words and graphic by Morgan Harper Nichols
Music: Sung by Lori
- My Tribute by Andrae Crouch
- Liability by Lorde
- Someday (original tune) by Lori Joanne Quick
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